Challenging your Child to Success!

By: Solomon Brenner
Black Belt Parenting
 

Parents have the job of challenging their children.

Unlike criticizing them when they make a mistake, challenging them will help motivate them to improve and will introduce them to the concept of “cause and effect.”

When the bedroom is clean (cause), there’s time for an extra hour of TV (effect). When a child misbehaves, the effect should be a learned lesson, not a prolonged punishment.

When I started teaching, my standard procedure was to condemn children who did not satisfy my expectations or execute their moves perfectly.
I thought that by pointing out their flaws, they would focus their efforts on fixing them; however, pointing out their flaws did not motivate anyone to fix anything, but created a negative focus on the situation.

Instead of focusing on the errors, focus on what is right and use that as a launching pad to suggest potential improvements.

Everyone has heard of the saying ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.’
Instead of just focusing on what your child has done wrong, choose a specific goal and challenge them to meet that goal.

If your children have trouble with a homework assignment, patiently go over it with them. Before pointing out flaws, find something positive to say.

By: Solomon Brenner
Black Belt Parenting


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